It's rather difficult to constantly see on Facebook and Instagram how everyone is so easily knocked up with little to no effort. When the decision to start adding to your family is secure, the journey of trying to conceive begins. For some, they just go with the flow and take things easy and for others they do all they can to make sure they are actively trying.
True, the whole ‘make a baby’ thing seems simple enough. You have sex, you miss your period — you’re pregnant. Or if you are in my boat, it is actually quite a complicated process of fertile windows and Lord knows what else.I debated sharing this with all of you, but I haven't had much else going on in my life now that summer is in session and I get a break away from teaching.I also know it wasn't all that long ago I wrote a post on NOT having a baby any time soon. Truth be told, my husband and I don't want to have a kid in our late 30s or early 40s, but rather now in our early 30s. The hubs and I had a nice little chat right around X mas time of last year regarding the whole baby making and when did he (we) I want to start all of that?
To catch some of you up to speed, I came off the pill in February (if you are doing the math it's been 5 months) after have never been off of it since I was 18. I have been on birth control non stop since the moment I got into college. I am healthy, I am the right weight, I eat pretty darn good, yet nothing thus far.
Some of you may wonder why didn't I come off sooner?
Easy answer: there was no way I was having a baby alone or being single or being to young. Yes, I know, babies are a gift from God, but in a 21 yr old's case, it would of been my worst nightmare. I had just finished college. To get knocked up would of meant I went to school for nothing.
I've done the teaching bit for 8 years now, going on 9 and it's been a blast. Should we have a child, I am 99% I'd keep teaching. The difference now being I am married with "Help" (husband = income and support for a child) VS saying being single and alone with no help. This is the reason why I stayed continually on the pill for so long. I knew financially as a teacher I could not afford to care for a child on my salary alone. Anyway moving on....
To help with this baby making process, initially Mister Wonderful and I both just said, well "if it happens it happens." Which a few months later, turned into, "hey lets look a little more into this." Which led to me tracking my periods which is something I haven't done since HS. What a pain. Of course ideally in a perfect world, having or conceiving a child would be best in the summer months being a teacher and all. I've been using this app
Next steps have been getting an ovulation kit and see when I am supposidly a fertile myrtle so to speak. If nothing happens after this kit trial bit is over, then chances are hubs and I will have to go and talk to my gyno as to what our next steps are.
Truth be told I am very scared that all of those years on birth control could of messed me up. My gyno assured me over and over that that is just an myth and old wives tale so to speak. I am scared of having something wrong with me, if maybe I'm one of those that just can't? So many factors. Regardless of what happens or doesn't happen, I will always leave it in God's hands as he knows what is best for my husband and I.
Anyone else in the same boat?