I'm super old fashioned and superstitious when it comes to well wedding rings and dresses!
What do I mean by that? Well....to be really honest, I have never gone into a jewelry store to even "browse" rings alone or with a boyfriend. Not ever. I know nothing about cuts, clarity, stones or much else lingo about diamonds LOL
I Have never bought a wedding magazine or anything either. I guess I'm just worried I'll jinx myself or something if I look at things before I"m suppose to? Does that make me sound weird?
Mister Wonderful and I are very happy, and I think in due time, eventually we will take the plunge and get married. :) But until that day, I am fearful. You see, since I've never been one to look at rings, what if that day comes and I get a ring and I'm like so happy he asks, but so not liking the ring he picks? I'm so picky when it comes to anything jewelry. I mean, I have like five or so Tiffany necklaces and let me assure you, I bought them ALL myself, never have gotten any from a guy, that's how picky I am!
How much is an engagement ring suppose to cost? Are girls suppose to know how much their ring costs? What is considered a good sized diamond? Too small? to big?
Where do guys buy the rings from? Is a chain jewelry store bad? IE Kays, Zales etc etc or considered bad taste/form? What is considered a good jewelry store to get one from? Like Blue Nile or something?
I know I kinda want something different, I mean I'm artsy and I love the detail on the side of this ring....I wish i remembered where I found this ring...
I guess I am just wondering how I would react if well I got a ring that he picked (someday) and well hated it?
This one is nice too..
Speaking of jewelry.....I stumbled upon these today..
Bottom picture is of course a Tiffany's bracelet. $275
The top is the ever so I hear rage David Yurman? I think I spelled that right. I like his bracelets. Expensive, but nothing crazy in the sense of a Tiffanys price range so that's do able!
Well married, single, engaged bloggy ladies I would LOVEEEE to know what you know on the subject of rings! :)
I am also super picky, therefore my husband let me pick my wedding rings! I heard it is an unwritten rule that he should spend 3 months salary on the ring! My ring is 1.75 carats, but I don't know what is consired too small, sorry! I love my ring, I think it's perfect! (duh, I picked it!) I was very much like you when I was looking for a ring, I had no idea what I wanted, all I knew is that I wanted a princess cut ring! I don't think it matters where you buy the ring, as long as you love it and it is a good quality ring! Since you want a unique artsy ring, you'll probably find it in a boutique not a chain store! I hope this helps! Email me if you have any other questions!
ReplyDeleteoh my gosh, that ring that you can't find again! i love it. love love it.
ReplyDeletei go back and forth. sometimes i think i want a tiffany ring (the novo one to be precise), but sometimes i think something made of gold a little differently shaped would be nice too. then sometimes i think i dont care about a ring at all! haha.
Since you're artsy, maybe he will have a jeweler design one for you?? I have seen a number of rings on artsy girls that were designed for them they totally captured their personality in the ring.
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ReplyDeleteI think if you get anything below 1 carat you won't be happy with it for long. My husband had mine made and helped design it but he knew what I liked because we dated for 8 year (and the center diamond was my moms). If you really like the ring in the picture an independent jeweler could make it...it's super pretty. What kind of wedding band would you get with it? In terms of clarity I would always pick clarity over size. A 2 carat diamond is nice but not if it's cloudy. Clarity has a lot to do with price. How much is too much to pay...to me if you have to put it on a credit card or payment plan it's too much. Buy the most you can get with your money and then once you buy it get it appraised and insured for sure! This may be tacky to say, I'm not sure, but mine is appraised and insured for 10,000$ so if something happens to it we can pay to replace it. Hope that helps!
But have any of you looked at rings? like before you were engaged? with or without a guy?
ReplyDeleteI recently got engaged & he didn't have a ring. I had never looked at them & I don't know much about diamonds either, but I knew I wanted a vintage ring. I went with a friend a few days afterward to an estate sale store & found a beautiful older David Yurman engagement ring. I went back the next day with my fiance and we got it. It was $1200. We didn't go by the rule of so many months salary... we just found a ring that I love (because I'm sooo picky) & went with it. I don't think looking ahead of time is bad! This way if you find something you like you can let a friend know and maybe this bit of information can be passed on, just in case!
ReplyDeleteNo, I never looked at rings before I was engaged! I didn't even think about getting married until Timmy asked me! But immediately after he asked me, I started to looks! It only took me about 3 months to find my dream ring!
ReplyDeleteI like what Angie and Emily said!
ReplyDeleteWe kinda looked at rings before we got engaged. I told him what I liked and showed him some pictures but he picked it out all by himself :) An engagement ring is definitely something you want to love so giving him some hints is probably a good idea!
not weird at all! i didn't talk about it EVER... or try to even think about it- TOTALLY believed in a jinx.
ReplyDeletein the end my hubby did well- we were together 6.5 years before he popped the question. by this time he knew me well enough to know what i would want.
i am picky- so we went with a BEAUTIFUL solitaire and let me know right away that i should pick something out that i would love for the band!
so anyway, not weird at all. you dont went to have any sort of expectations that could set up for a "let down" we were/are very happy and i knew it would happen when it was right and it would be perfect which it all turned out being ;)
Hello there, I just got engaged a few months ago, so I can definitely relate to how you feel about looking for rings.
ReplyDeleteI am exactly the same way able jewelry, I am so picky and have to have something I like, after all, if its so expensive you might as well love it.
Anyway, from experience, I would say that if you are picky about what you want you really need to go looking yourself. I remember not waiting to go look for rings with Matt, but one day, we were in the city of Philadelphia and we actually went in to look at jewelry. We started to look at watches but ended up looking at rings instead. I always thought I knew what I would like because I had seen pictures in magazines and online, but it turned out that I didn’t end up really liking the style I had in mind. Then, all of a sudden, I saw this amazing ring, I asked the guy to see it. I tried it on, and it fit perfectly. I remember Matt saying to the man, “it’s a little pricey though.” The guy was so sweet and said “if she loves it, we can make it work.” We looked at different diamonds and some other rings, but I kept going back to that one.
Months and months passed. I forgot about the ring, after all I’m still in college and I figured it would be a while off. Then July of this year came up and Matthew purposed. He opened the ring box, and it was THE SAME EXACT RING, except so much more beautiful then I imagined. I love love loved it. And I don’t think the fact that I picked it out changed anything about it being special. He made sure he got exactly what I wanted.
As for chains, you will find that they are much more pricey then non-chain jewelry stores.
If you are picky then I would definately go and check out rings with your man, just so he can get a hint on the styles and such that you like.
ReplyDeleteMe, on the other hand, I'm not picky.at.all. My man has my ring, just not proposed, it's sitting in a safe at his dad's house so I can't see it. How lovely.
I'm not engaged yet, but we've gone to look at rings together. We just went to a chain store at the mall and it was mainly just to get an idea of what I like since I really had NO IDEA. And I'm very glad that we did since I tried one ring on that I didn't like at all, but he loved. Yikes!
ReplyDeleteConsidering it's something that you're going to wear everyday for the rest of your life, it's important to make sure that it's something that you absolutely love. If that means you have to email him styles that you like, or actually go to a store and try them on, then so be it.
If you are picky, I say DEFINITELY pick it out or at least help pick it out! When we started talking about getting engaged, we went and looked around. I just KNEW beforehand that I wanted this one type of ring, then when I tried it on, I did not like it at all. My fingers were long and it just didn't look right. I ended up picking a totally different and unique ring! I love it!! Just remember, the ring is something that you will wear EVERY single day and show off to everyone! So you want to love it!!
ReplyDeleteWe actually went and looked at rings twice before getting engaged. The first time was about 7 months before and the second time two months before. The first time I didn't find one I loved. The second time I found "the ring". I'm so glad we looked because the one I picked out was completely different than what I had always imagined wanting. So I personally suggest going to look. And if you are still wanting to be surprised, maybe show him three you like and let him pick from those. That way he still gets to have some part in picking the ring.
ReplyDeleteI have looked at rings on my own and with a previous bf. It's just fun to look at jewelry though! I would never do that now I don't think. I'm not concerned about it anymore. I would love a cheap, vintage ring now. I love when a guy picks things out on his own but i totally feel you on the fear of not knowing if you will love it or hate it!!!!
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ReplyDeleteMike and I have always had the "wedding talk" as I am sure you all have too ...like stating preferences...anyhoo, one time we were at the mall and just to do it we ran into a few different ring places...I didn't see anything that I liked (I hate to even pretend look because the sales people at the jewelry story are the equivalent of a car salesperson! SHARKS! The last place we went into was Zales...and it was funny and magical because we BOTH saw a ring we both loved but neither of us had pointed to it yet. All I got out was : oooooh I see one and Mike said, : I see one that looks like you...and it was the same ring! Pretty near...anyhoo that was 2 years ago! And he has had the item# written down in his wallet forever now! Soooo I've just been waiting haha....I prefer to pick it out BECAUSE like you, I am verrry picky about my jewlery...Mike cannot shop for annything...he likes for me to give him item number and draw him a picture even when he is Christmas shopping so for US it works :) PLUS like you said, your engagement ring is thee most important piece of jewelry a woman will ever wear! You need to make sure it is something you are just IN LOVE with!! I do not think its a jinx whatsoever...AND furthermore I can conclude that it isn't a jinx when Michael ASSUMES THE POSITION. Which I am hoping is annnnnyday now!!!
Girl, you and I are SO alike in this regard... I am extremely old fashioned in the whole ring/proposal stuff. I have some college friends who used to shake their ring finger at their beau and leave dog eared bridal mags at his place. For.reals. I mean..that's fine and it worked for them and they're SO happy... :) But, I just cant do that. I've been freaking lately about not knowing ANYTHING about rings-venues-weddings-etc... For example, when someone says "We got engaged Saturday night....Our wedding is July ___" and I'm like "HOLY CRAP how do you have a date already?!" haha! This is a rant, but in short.. I get ya, girlie. Totally. :) And that ring you featured is GORGEOUS!
ReplyDeleteI was NEVER picky until I started working at a high end jewelry store and looked at engagement rings every day of my life. Then, got engaged while working there, so my poor hubby had to step it up slightly more since my taste was better. LOL!
ReplyDeleteIf you are super picky and really worried about whether you will like the ring he picks out, you really should go check out rings. I know how much mine cost The Husband but I didn't pick it out. I told him the cut diamond that I prefer but that's it. I wasn't overly concerned about liking it or not. He and I have the same taste in most things so I knew he would pick something beautiful.
ReplyDeleteOne day, just pop into a store and figure out what you love and don't love. He needs to know -- it wouldn't be good for either of you if you don't like the ring he gets you.
Just saw this post and obviously I have to comment :) haha
ReplyDeleteWell...my recommendation is to browse with your bf when the time is right and look at a BUNCH of different places/types of rings and see which places you like and don't like. I knew I wanted mine designed just for me (and luckily my dad's friend does custom work ;)) and if you are really picky I would say THIS is the way to go for you! I didn't want anything that everyone else had and I liked that I could design everything about it. I spent like 6 mos designing it, oops. I def think since you are the one wearing it the rest of your life that you should have say since your the one wearing it! I don't think that is selfish at all. You should look at Tacori rings..they are very artsy and different :) Also I love the Halo look! I had to have it! Check it out :)
I would have him look (or your look) at your locally owned, upscale jewelry stores. We live in Richmond and there are some really nice locally owned shops with GORGEOUS rings by all the big names. I can totally relate about being picky...my husband can't pick out a thing on his own but I did give him a few clues before he popped the question. Maybe even look into old estate rings that have a ton of personality and are super unique! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWhen we looked at rings, I kept drifting towards the ones that had sapphires on the sides or interesting swirly designs. In the end though, I got a simple solitaire. I wouldn't ask for anything different. It's perfect.
ReplyDeleteGive him ideas what you like and in the end, you're gonna love it regardless. ;)
Hey hey girlfriend good work thinking ahead.
ReplyDeleteSo I'm EXACTLY the same way.. Never tried on rings, never bought wedding magazines, don't have anything planned in my head.
But as far as rings.. Once me and the BF started talking about it, he asked me to go with him to try them on and see what I liked, he actually ended up getting the ring I wanted (long story) but you'll know when the time comes you should probably just suggest whenever you do talk about it to go and try some on to see what you like.
Hi! Well I am not yet engaged, hoping it will be soon though :)! Before we started to seriously talk about getting married, I would browse on wedding sites all the time. I have a file of saved pictures, ha! During the last 6 months, we have been to a few stores to try rings on. It is such an exciting time. He knows the design I like, but I want him to pick the actual ring out!! We will see what happens.
ReplyDeletePS. If you are picky, it is probably best to look together and show him examples of what you like.
well obviously i've never been engaged. but i think you two should go out and look together. (they have a cool jewelry store in town that lets the guy just pick out a random ring keeping in mind that he'll return with his girl and then they'll pick out the best ring together. i think the idea of that is groovy!)
ReplyDeleteanywho, hope all goes well and that you find the ring of your dreams. :) the ring above that look like a flower. so gorgeous. i'd get one like that for sure!
have a great holiday.
xx.
i used to browsing rings on the internet and conveniently leaving the pages up for steven to see :) eventually we'd joke about it a little and somehow by the time he went to get a ring i'd made it clear that i liked the three-stone! but we never picked on out together. a lot of people do, though, i think.
ReplyDeleteI had never looked at rings either, until my guy and I went together... which I was a bit weary of, but I think is a great idea. Because, like he said to me, if he's going to spend that much on a ring, I need to love it!! The good thing is that the settings aren't the expensive part, so your bf could always pick out the main diamond for you, on a band, and then you could go together to pick out the setting that you like... if you didn't want to look at them before you get engaged.
ReplyDeleteFirst off, make sure your engagement ring would look wonderful with a wedding band. Some engagement rings are so marvelous on their own, but when paired with a wedding band they just don't look right. Maybe email your best friend some photos of rings you like and she can shoot them over to Mr Wonderful when the time comes??? Size, clarity... I think think that should be left up to the guy. But I really suggest picking the cut/style, I mean, you'll be wearing it everyday for the rest of your life -- you want to love it, and the cut/style is most important!
ReplyDeleteI think me and my bf are getting close to that point too!! And we have gone and looked at rings twice now! I think you should definetly have a conversation about what you like in terms of style... I know I want a princess cut ring and he now has a good idea of what I like. But I dont want to know exactly which one I am gonna get, I will leave that up to him. I know it will be around
ReplyDelete6k because they told us when i tried them on... have you guys discussed marriage recently?? I can't wait til we are both engaged!
when you find out all the rules let me know. well i have a lot time to figure out these rules seeing as i don't even have a boyfriend but i too want to make sure i am in love with the ring since i'll be wearing it the rest of my life. i say pick out the one you want and tell a girlfriend to tell your boyfriend when the times comes.
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