tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post4653951646460899575..comments2024-02-06T01:19:49.263-07:00Comments on A little lovely: FAQ- Frequently Asked QuestionsC Maehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07386100674885272078noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-35385068677675919722012-01-24T09:59:09.344-07:002012-01-24T09:59:09.344-07:00Do what you feel most comfortable with... I live i...Do what you feel most comfortable with... I live in the same city where I grew up and even then friendships are difficult to maintain. <br />When my day comes I'd like to be able to keep it private and intimate. I don't like the notion of feeling like you "should" invite someone and plan a party to cater to friends & family's expectations. We'll see...Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13502998515970015688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-29722399981235704252012-01-24T09:05:18.874-07:002012-01-24T09:05:18.874-07:00Aw C mae so sorry about this. That's a tough d...Aw C mae so sorry about this. That's a tough decision. I agree with what Kate said though..send out those announcements afterwards. I desperately want you to have a shower too (maybe work friends?) bc I don't want you to miss out :( sounds like everything else is goingwell though.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13699293636698337811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-2984252771373067062012-01-22T08:03:34.894-07:002012-01-22T08:03:34.894-07:00We got married in the courthouse 2 weeks before my...We got married in the courthouse 2 weeks before my husband deployed, and my mom threw me a "virtual shower"<br /><br />There wasnt time for me to come back to NY, so she hosted the party at her house, and skyped me in. My sister opened my gifts for me, and I got to enjoy in all the festivities (aside from the yummy food) and then my mom brought me my presents the next time she came to visit.<br /><br />Not sure how your relationship with your mom is, but I thought this might be a helpful alternative.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-81800647823830253872012-01-21T12:39:42.522-07:002012-01-21T12:39:42.522-07:00i'm sorry to hear this, but don't let it g...i'm sorry to hear this, but don't let it get you down about your wedding! this is going to be such a WONDERFUL day for you and Mr W. also, every single wedding has drama. all of them, anyone who says different is lying through their stinking teeth. a private ceremony is going to be beautiful and perfect, that's what it's about to begin with. focus on the big stuff and forget the little things.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00387917833470372070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-21125941732494934472012-01-20T19:50:10.900-07:002012-01-20T19:50:10.900-07:00Maybe you could register but only tell people abou...Maybe you could register but only tell people about it if they ask. That way it doesn't seem like you're asking people to give you presents but you still have a good list for those that do.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10385787689075231229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-13867178356785345232012-01-20T15:43:03.264-07:002012-01-20T15:43:03.264-07:00Wish we were closer girl!Wish we were closer girl!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18272446201835946704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-13357226074064430592012-01-19T15:09:17.257-07:002012-01-19T15:09:17.257-07:00Oh i am so sorry to hear that! That is terrible! I...Oh i am so sorry to hear that! That is terrible! I am from Connecticut but went to the University of Alabama for college and have lived in the south ever since, its all about how close you were to begin with and how hard you work to stay with friends once you move away. I am blessed to still have those relationships :)choose to be happy blog https://www.blogger.com/profile/17548858947056344851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-52913710852713233622012-01-19T09:39:38.913-07:002012-01-19T09:39:38.913-07:00WOW!!! So many people in the same situation! I&#...WOW!!! So many people in the same situation! I'm there right along with you! 8 months ago I moved across the country (Canada! haha) and have found it so hard to keep my friends interested in my life since I'm not right infront of them anymore....it sucks. It's the hardest thing I've had to deal with since being here....<br />I totally understand where your coming from....even though I'm not engaged my bf and I were just discussing this same situation last weekend....its a tough one.<br />But do what makes you happy in the moment and don't stress about if your friends or family will be there for you on your day....do what makes you happy!<br /><br />http://vodka-caviar.blogspot.comamanda*https://www.blogger.com/profile/12218698293739026608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-61450176506043378902012-01-19T09:37:09.209-07:002012-01-19T09:37:09.209-07:00It's YOUR wedding...you guys do what YOU want....It's YOUR wedding...you guys do what YOU want. If you don't want to throw a party, then don't. If you don't want/need gifts or money, then don't register. After people told me what kind of wedding cake I SHOULD have, and what it should taste like, I said screw it. And I bought those chocolate cakes from Costco and that's what we had cause WE loved them. Not everyone else.<br /><br />Where in Montana does your brother live?? That's where I'm from! I've lived from one side of the state to the next at some point, so I'm sure I probably know where he lives!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00129860380061595692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-36324428332168401412012-01-19T07:27:02.051-07:002012-01-19T07:27:02.051-07:00What I think you should definitely do is send out ...What I think you should definitely do is send out wedding announcements after your wedding. That's what we did... Well, that's what my mom and mother-in-law did. They included a picture of Bryan and I from our wedding, so that those who weren't there could get a glimpse of us on our special day. Anyhow, by sending out announcements you are not asking for anything - you are just announcing your marriage. BUT... if people choose to send you a gift, they now have your address. We had ZERO expectations about receiving any gifts/money based on these announcements and were so surprised when we got beautiful cards in the mail, some which included a check. You'd be surprised at how thrilled people were that we sent them an announcement and included the photo. It wasn't a professional photo, as those weren't in yet - just a snapped photo by someone. It was really nice and we were happy that we were able to include those who weren't invited or too old to fly!! Do it :)Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04898573666719605306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-80944201790938793482012-01-19T07:23:55.705-07:002012-01-19T07:23:55.705-07:00I will be referencing your post today if that is o...I will be referencing your post today if that is ok... It is kind of the same as your situation only in reverse? I think?<br /><br />Family is all that matters. Your current, and the one you are joining/creating. You do you. You know the old saying "friends are temporary, family is forever", is truer than true. <br /><br />XO<br />MelissaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03635552855760756365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-59641506593395261122012-01-19T05:29:02.235-07:002012-01-19T05:29:02.235-07:00I think you have some time to decide...it's st...I think you have some time to decide...it's still really early. People don't really do showers until a few months before. (A girl I knew registered early and some of her stuff she reg. for was discontinued by the time her showers/wedding came along.) Even if you are having a small/private wedding, your co-workers, family, and friends in AZ should want to have a shower for you! If we lived closer I would have one for you! :)Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09087826033185100322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-65493489338295566052012-01-18T21:34:37.093-07:002012-01-18T21:34:37.093-07:00Without going into much detail I can relate to the...Without going into much detail I can relate to the "friend" stuff. Sorry this is happening to you, I hope that it all works out for you. If I had to give any advice, I'd say to just do what you want to do and what makes your and your fiance happy and don't worry about anybody else. Good luck girl! <br /><br />XO. Britt<br /> <a href="www.themagnoliapair.com" rel="nofollow">The Magnolia Pair</a><br /><br />:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07708701261207459870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-52372233715319178982012-01-18T21:16:51.698-07:002012-01-18T21:16:51.698-07:00I'm sorry girl :( I feel the same way about my...I'm sorry girl :( I feel the same way about my friends too. It's sad, but so true! As for the wedding, I haven't had to deal with planning a wedding yet, but i'm' sure within a year or two i'll be in the same boat as you!<br /><br />Keep your head up :) It'll all work out in the end!Breehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285758508892507561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-76116219229493664812012-01-18T18:55:07.235-07:002012-01-18T18:55:07.235-07:00You could still do a small registry for those peop...You could still do a small registry for those people at work or wherevs that will say, "We want to get you a gift." Then you'll be able to refer them somewhere, but it would be lower pressure? Just a thought!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10030154468095685932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-17441158108538444072012-01-18T18:40:23.662-07:002012-01-18T18:40:23.662-07:00I've learned that no matter what you do, peopl...I've learned that no matter what you do, people will still find something to be upset about. Just do what works for you and your man. It sounds like you have most of your plans and ideas together. Yay for getting your engagements taken soon!!! :)Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14167691214663205067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-80542027707266382972012-01-18T18:07:35.083-07:002012-01-18T18:07:35.083-07:00ohhh girl i can relate to you on this! I moved awa...ohhh girl i can relate to you on this! I moved away just 2 years ago and I already feel the change w/ friends. since we live across the states from where we will have our wedding, it made sense for us to do a honeymoon registry rather than a gift registry and I can already see some eyes rolling from friends and fam. But whateves you just gotta do what YOU want to do :) <br />Your Hawaii private wedding sounds SUPER romantic!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390043214384175500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-49573403551013261372012-01-18T17:57:10.170-07:002012-01-18T17:57:10.170-07:00Aw that's too bad. I have the same issue with...Aw that's too bad. I have the same issue with a few people. I find that even though Facebook is supposed to be a way to connect with people, it can actually do the opposite. I have some "friends" that think liking a few photos is the same as keeping in contact. It's not lol. Regardless I'm sure the people who are still in your life are the ones who are meant to be :) And keep in mind - it's your wedding, do whatever you want to do!!!!!!Lauren Talonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10845322463668015687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-10378106944458292972012-01-18T17:54:53.135-07:002012-01-18T17:54:53.135-07:00I recently got married & we received a lot of ...I recently got married & we received a lot of "no's". Like you, we have family everywhere. We had the wedding in Tn where we live, but neither of our parents were from the state so they have their family in Pennsylvania, California, Texas, and Georgia. We knew this going in, but we still registered & a lot of people shipped our presents. I think that if you worded it right that it would be totally acceptable to ask family & "friends" to show their support by helping you get items that you might need/want to start your married lives together. Maybe simply adding "If you would like to help us start our new lives together we are registered at ______".Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10994836732309739271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-46139597125517585732012-01-18T17:48:56.343-07:002012-01-18T17:48:56.343-07:00I know what you mean on the losing friends thing. ...I know what you mean on the losing friends thing. I feel like it's an out of sight out of mind type thing, but any time I move I feel like my friends from the last place I live are so hard to keep in touch with and we eventually lose touch all together. It's definitely frustrating.daisy351https://www.blogger.com/profile/12562793711515600680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-35649938994031743472012-01-18T17:40:08.425-07:002012-01-18T17:40:08.425-07:00Sorry to here that! I think the wedding announceme...Sorry to here that! I think the wedding announcements is a great idea! If you don't register it may be likely that your family and friends will hopefully send you guys a card with some money, ( I just know that that is what I would do!)<br /><br />Good luck with everything and don't stress, in the end all that matters is you and the future hubby!<br /><br />xoxo<br />Petchie<br />http://itsallofthelittlethings.blogspot.com/Petchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10846375888716503369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-80126389081807000772012-01-18T17:38:10.611-07:002012-01-18T17:38:10.611-07:00My situation is a lot like yours... which is reall...My situation is a lot like yours... which is really sad ::( and I dislike it.{andthisiswhatshesaid}https://www.blogger.com/profile/03904678919647798329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-87272473165856581812012-01-18T17:24:22.706-07:002012-01-18T17:24:22.706-07:00I bet if you registered and put it on your blog yo...I bet if you registered and put it on your blog you'd get gifts from blog friends! Just sayin' ;)Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14272620719737348383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-81010633584148114992012-01-18T17:20:05.681-07:002012-01-18T17:20:05.681-07:00So sorry about your family and friends C Mae :( I ...So sorry about your family and friends C Mae :( I know how you feel though. I moved here to DC for college 2 years ago and left all of my friends behind in Washington State. It's SO hard to keep in touch with them now. Some of them won't even respond to my facebook messages, even though i know they've been on facebook! It's really sad, but I just have to deal with it. And as for my family, I don't know ANYONE from my dad's family. Long story short- my dad left my mom when she was pregnant with me so therefore my dad's family is pretty much nonexistent. And my mom's side of the family- 90% live in Colombia. I know i'm not gonna be getting married ANY time soon, but i just don't see anyone from my family coming here to the U.S. to see me get married. It's very expensive and far away! <br /><br />So sorry for writing you an essay! lolRaquelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00054133376255562118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073663667387529623.post-55200897708575029432012-01-18T17:16:47.825-07:002012-01-18T17:16:47.825-07:00like i said i wish we lived alot closer..because d...like i said i wish we lived alot closer..because dangggg girl i would sugar you up and get you a bridal/wedding shower..even if it was just a few people!<br />i dont want you to miss out on anything that is involved with getting married and it sucks to see that some of your friends...even if they arent super close arent willing to atleast have something for you? maybe thats just me and im a good friend i feel? <br />butttt whenever you wanna move to vegas! im here! =]ashleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18314429664890680869noreply@blogger.com